Author Archive | julieheckman

Family Road Trip Tips

Family Road Trip Tips

Any other moms who grew up in the 80s? When plane trips vacations were absolutely not the norm and station wagons (with wood panels) flew down the highway every weekend from May through September? Growing up, my grandparents lived 4 and 3.5 hours away so once every few months, my parents would pile us in […]

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Living with the Jealousy

I broke down the other night. I approached my husband in tears, and I told him that I wanted another baby. He looked at me stunned because he just had gotten the all clear from the urologist after his follow-up appointment. He gently asked me if I was telling him I wanted to adopt. I […]

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During the Waiting

I have a picture of myself as a four-year-old with a white dish cloth draped on my head and secured in place with plastic pop beads. With plastic flowers in my hand, I’m walking dramatically slow on the plastic floor cover in my grandparents house pretending it’s the aisle of a church. The Beach Boys […]

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Commuting Mom Life Hacks

About a year ago I started looking for a new job. I had been at the same employer for almost nine years at that point. I transitioned from analyst to software developer and had amazing opportunities for professional growth. I’d gotten married, gained two wonderful step kids and even had my own baby. But even […]

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What a NICU Mama Needs

Whether it’s planned or completely unexpected, when your baby is in the NICU, life just gets overwhelming. My son was rushed to Children’s Mercy by ambulance early in the morning on his third day of life. I was completely exhausted and very drugged up still from an abrupt C-section and uncontrollable nausea even after delivery. […]

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Dear Presley

Dear Presley, I was 29 and struggling when we met. I thought maybe you could help me through some lonely nights and be someone I could focus my love toward. I’ll never forget picking you up from the lady’s house. You had these sad, droopy eyes that I just couldn’t resist. You threw up 10 […]

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DIY Beauty Products

I don’t consider myself crunchy. We vaccinate and medicate regularly. We try to be as healthy as possible with two full time working parents and three kids but I definitely I feed my kids Aldi’s frozen chicken nuggets and Kraft Mac and Cheese like it’s going out of style. My baby is currently obsessed with Cheez-Its […]

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Letting Go of Feeling Guilty

My dad and I just don’t get along. He makes me feel bad about myself. Many of his comments and conversations are borderline emotionally abusive and have been since I was young. He self medicated his depression and anxiety with alcohol for many years and after my parents divorced, he fell off the grid. When […]

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Why I Love the Northland

Do you know the difference between North Kansas City and Kansas City, North? I didn’t for the first 22 years of my life. In fact, I honestly had no idea that there was any civilization up here aside from the airport. As a Johnson County native who escaped and attended Mizzou (Go Tigers!), it was […]

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