Let It Go!

I was supposed to write a post about my 20 year high school reunion and how I never forgave my childhood bully. Why do I still think about her?

I was also supposed to write a post about my toxic former boss. Why waste my time?

My new year’s motto is let it go!

I can’t tell you  many nightly conversations I have with my husband on whether or not so and so’s mom likes me or why so and so didn’t invite me over for a girls night out.

Why do I care? 

I turned 39 this year, and I have never felt more confident and whole in my own skin. I look in the mirror and I love what I see. It has taken me a long time to love and respect myself. I am not going to waste my time on the what if’s or the why’s of the past.

Let it go!

We can’t let our own insecurities take over our mind. Those conversations that we have with our self at night were we second guess everything we think or did. Or go round and round with our self on how we could have done something different… Let it go.

You reading this right now, you’re doing your best. Your best is all your kids want from you. Sometimes my best is a family dinner, a bath and a good night story. Sometimes my best is getting home from work when they are already asleep.

We can’t set ourselves up for failure at home, work or in our personal lives by trying to live the unrealistic expectations in our head or the expectations of others. There is always going to be that mom at school who looks like she has it all together. We will always have that co-worker who we are slightly jealous of because we think she knows it all. There is always going to be someone who we measure our self to and we need to stop and appreciate who we are. Because that other mom could probably be thinking the same thing about you.

Let it go.

Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Learn to love yourself. You are unique and beautiful. You are enough.  It’s taken me more than 30 years to realize this about myself. I hope you can look in the mirror and realize it today.

So next time you second guess yourself, judge yourself or question yourself… just let it go!